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When I look at allot of the online dating services I notice one common trend. People take it very seriously into finding there true love. I find it absolutely amazing the amount of people who are looking for there absolute perfect match.

There seems to be so many profiles out there who tell people exactly what it is they want from a partner. Its as if there an owner of a company and there trying to fill a certain job position. They then take and list there requirements and what they expect from a person. If they don’t meet those requirements then they think there unsuitable. I think that’s crazy.

Dating is about getting to know people and then seeing if you enjoy spending time with them. You will often meet people who you thought you would never date and end up having a strong relationship with them. I’m not saying that it isn’t good to have certain expectations. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a partner. I’m just saying you need to have an open mind.

So what should you put in your profile?

Instead of a whole big list of stuff like this is what I want and this is what I expect, you should have a touch of personality. Sure you will have certain expectations. You need to personalize them, so they just don’t sound like your looking for a perfect person. If you like to joke around then add some little funnies throughout your profile. You need to show off your personality. Show people how you see the world and that you don’t take everything so seriously.

When you go to a nightclub you don’t just go to meet someone, you go to have some fun too. You need to look at online dating in the same way. Have some fun with it and don’t take it to seriously. You will make things much easier on yourself.

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So what is it about the ‘bad boy’ that attracts women so strongly to them?

In case you did not know, a healthy traditionally raised woman would run as far away as she can from a bad boy because she knows that he will bring too much drama, pain and hurt to her in the long run. In a traditional society that is not influenced by popular American culture, the bad boy is seen as an outcast of society (unless idolized from American cinema).

They’re only real chance used to be with slummy women or those who were on the outside of society as well. Now of course the bad boy is glorified, as he is often the answer to a lot of our so called ‘bitches’ (in a respectful sense of those that define themselves as such) and their need for social validation on their level and also to keep them in check in the more traditional male-female relationship dynamic.

It is important for you to realize that bad boys do have a lot of drama, and troubles. Traditional women, I have seen personally stay away from these kinds of men.

I think if you can be a natural man and yet still possess some of these characteristics will still been in control of them, you will be able to also appeal to a woman’s social persona as well. This means doing things like being a little bit cocky, teasing her, enforcing your independent boundaries and generally not giving a damn.

Today’s women are so desperate for the underlying male-female relationship dynamic where the man is really the one in control, that they will often settle for bad boys and loser type jerks only because they treat them in the traditional dynamic of not letting them get away with crap.

A traditional woman does not have to try to get away with crap, because she doesn’t have crap that she is coming with to get away with. She is MUCH simpler and this is not a bad thing. This is why a normal healthy nice guy can easily attract a traditional woman anywhere in the world (as I’ve done dozens of times) and be fascinated how everything just is ‘natural’.

It is this ‘cultural differentiation’ especially that allows me to bring a great level of insight to the table. If you are a nice guy or a great catch, you should not want to become a bad boy just in order to get women because that may be all that you are a seeing that is going on and is not the only solution (not to mention unhealthy if you really aren’t like that).

A bad boy is successful with our (American) independent, hot women because he does not let them get away with crap. He knows how to naturally trigger the physiological and emotional response mechanisms of attraction in her because he is playing a strong male role that she is biologically forced to respond to.

There is a high amount of leverage in these women that will either work for you or against. She can be repulsed by one man and that same energy, even more strongly attracted to another. Maybe you have seen this in front of your very eyes.

Nothing has really changed when you look beneath it all, because our women find that none of their ‘real’ counterparts are acting like men anymore, so they end up going with the bad boy or someone who they know is not healthy to be around, yet is the only one that is giving her the natural triggers of uncontrollable attraction which is irresistible to her.

My good news for you is that you do not have to become a bad boy, like I said, you can actually be a pure natural who is above the level of player status when it comes to attracting women and being successful with them.

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4 dating tips For Shy Guys From Seduction Experts

Fancy to be an online date that she will never forget? Here are 4 top online dating guidelines from seduction experts all over the earth:

1. Have you been informed about “neg?” A neg is neither an abuse nor a praise. It’s a combination of both. Why is a neg an esential weapon for an online dater? It’s not due to the reason that women look for negs, that’s for sure. But, women hate negs because it keeps them wondering. ‘What did he mean by that?” they’d ask themselves long following the talk. Women are so used to flattering comments nowadays that if somebody gives them a fake-praise, fake-insult, the individual who deliver the same will earn a place in their minds.

2. Mystery, not misery. Don’t forget, you’re not there to cause the woman’s life more depressing. You’re there to arouse her in a way that will leave a positive impression. The means to accomplish this is by adding a touch of ambiguity into your interrelation. Desert her wanting for more. Ask her if you can borrow a minute of her time for some honest chat. When she consents, tell her you changed your mind. This will annoy her, yes, but it will also make her remember you for ever.

3. Display a wit that’s always proper to the occasion. Women fall towards guys who have a wit. In any case, talking to somebody who’s as dull as a tree log would be senseless. Unveil your wit, but don’t overdo it. Forever show a wit that is proper, bearing in mind the events within.

4. Give an opening line that’s not a trite pickup line you learned from a very old TV show. The wittier your opening line is, the better. First impressions do stay forever in the world of online dating. How your partner perceives you at first is most probably how he or she will identifies you in the future.

Give these four dating tips for guys a go and let me know how you go at Dating Tips For Today.

“Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it’s very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain.” -Gloria Steinem, “Revolution from Within.”

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don’t recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it’s not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn’t aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don’t you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they’re transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That’s the way men are. That’s the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It’s all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends’ parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we’ll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it’s better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you’re putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven’t determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved–and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they’re accompanied by pain, something’s wrong. You’ll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, “Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?”

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

“Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it’s very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain.” -Gloria Steinem, “Revolution from Within.”

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don’t recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it’s not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn’t aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don’t you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they’re transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That’s the way men are. That’s the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It’s all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends’ parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we’ll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it’s better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you’re putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven’t determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved–and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they’re accompanied by pain, something’s wrong. You’ll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, “Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?”

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

Meeting women online gets easier and easier every day – especially with the advent of new social networking sites like Facebook. I know you were probably expecting me to say Myspace, but actually, Myspace has become a spammer haven. There is so much CRAP in Myspace now – I personally hate it. Its like looking at a bad video from the 80’s, pretty soon they are going to have black-light posters up and a velvet Elvis. Anyway – I really like Facebook a lot better, and you really CAN use it to meet ladies.

So here we have Facebook – a LOT more reliable at keeping out the jackass spammers and the people who use it to sell stuff. Now, it is becoming a very fun and reliable way to meet ladiesand just maybe give that dating life of yours that is sucking fumes a fresh breath of air! But – you have to know how to do it right or a) you will get yourself banned if they see you as a spammer or b) you are going to look like some Myspace node who just fell off the rubber tree.

So – here are four things you can do to use Facebook to meet women online…

First make nice and find friends! Seriously. Start to connect with the guys - and other ladies - who have many cute girl friends. Or even not so cute friends! They can lead you to the hotties. But you have to be cautious at the beginning, or you really could accused of spamming and get kicked out. So sniff out the Facebook junkies who have big networks – and become their friend.

Second – start trying to connect with the ladies you are interested in a very circumspect manner. Try sending them a friend request and be sure to write a message. Now, if you send a message that says, “Hey honey you are FINE – wanna go out sometime?” She is going to kick you right in your cyber-nuts and block you. Instead – find something about her that you have in common, and find a person that you are both friends with. Instead, say something like “Hey I saw you on Lee’s friend list and I noticed that you love to hike too. Have you ever read been on such and such trail…” Make sure it’s a question, too, so she feels compelled to answer you.

STEP 3: Start using the tools that Facebook offers. If you are meeting women online, you have got to at least use the Group tool. If you want to start doing that – check out the group “Carlos Xuma’s Alpha Lifestyle” – it is a totally cool way to get together with other [SPIN] MEN | GUYS[/SPIN] and discuss the latest dating tips for men on the internet.

Anyway – create a group that is something that ladies would get into too. Ok– so no Fantasy Football League Group. Instead try something about maybe wine or cooking, nutrition, the latest reality show or local venues. Something a woman can get into. Then – invite her to your group!

The last step is where you really start getting into the good stuff. Here is where you begin to take your Group offline – have a party at a local bar, or a wine tasting event, gourmet cooking or even a meeting where you talk about the latest in nutrition. THIS is where you can start really meeting the ladies.

So – meeting women on Facebook really is possibly – especially if you learn how to come in softly, and take it offline fairly quickly. Now, if you wnt to learn a ton of other avenues for meeting women online then you should check out David Deangelo’s meeting women online program . Or – if you want to read some SERIOUS dating tips for men by Carlos Xuma remember – you can actually hook up with Carlos on Facebook – he is awesome. Talk about a NETWORK!) check out his Dating Black Book of dating tips.

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Most people are apprehensive about online dating because of its bad reputation. Most people think online dating is for those who are not looking for serious relationships but that is not true. One can find a meaningful relationship through online dating by following the given guidelines.

Maintain your Individuality: There is an inherent tendency among women to portray themselves as someone whom, according to them, men find appealing. This is a wrong approach to start a personal interaction. Present yourself with your actual being, not in somebody else’s get up.

As we know that it is not that easy to know a person until one spends some time together, so suspicion can creep in very easily. It is always advisable to be honest about your likes, dislikes, feelings and other essential things you would want your partner to know.

Needless to say such pretensions prove to be futile in the long run. Mostly, the most popular lookout of online dating is a life partner therefore it would be very impractical to pretend since, one cannot keep up these pretensions forever.

Maintain truthfulness: When dating online, you are starting a relationship from nowhere. Faith is the first condition of any kind of bonding including such type. You need to be truthful and honest to your new found date or friend.

Do not pretend- Secondly it is important to project what you really are. This is an extension of the previous point. Never try to force things on yourself, or try to be someone else. Do not pretend to act in a manner, which does not portrait you, in order to make your partner like it, or because your partner likes it.

It is better to go ahead with what you really need from life. It does not matter if it is wise or unwise to do such a thing. If it feels good, it�s always better. It is also better to confess about the actual feelings you have in your heart before you get dedicated to a relationship.

Don�t feel too self-conscious: First dates usually make people very nervous. People often become extremely self-conscious during a date and start saying or doing silly things. Almost everyone finds it very difficult to be calm on first date. First online dates are equally frightening.

Shift your focus on your date- People often get too nervous on the first day of meeting the date. Most of the time people are worried about how are they looking, did his or her date like the way of dressing, and feel uncomfortable to eat in front of the date. They are also very measured in their conversation with the date. This is a normal problem. As first impression is regarded as the last impression, people try not to annoy his or her date, with some silly statement or some weird action.

That certainly does not mean you are going to sacrifice your identity for the person concerned. But for a smooth conversation it is important to listen, so that you are never at loss of words.

So wake up to reality, brace yourself up for the occasion of online dating and get yourself an eligible, handsome and mature man from the amazing world of online dating and of whom you have always dreamt of.

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It is traditional, first dates are mostly held in a restaurant. It could be dinner or drinks. It is not being on the safe side, it is actually more conducive to first dates. Restaurants are perfect places for conversation, lots of it. You can also impress your date with the choice of restaurant or bar. Dinner will also give the girls an opportunity to dress up and look their most beautiful. Restaurants give the most ample opportunity and ambience to successfully get through the getting-to-know-you stage. However, there are other places where you can have all the descriptions mentioned above as well as have fun.

I. A picnic by the lake

Can you say romantic? Girls will dig this type of dates. Of course, more planning will be required for this. You have to purchase the food yourself. Cheese, bread, wine and fruit are typical yet effective picnic-date food. They can be found in your local supermarket and can cut your budget in half (from what you would have spent in a fancy restaurant). Disadvantages would include an uncooperative weather. Scout the place first and find a firm flat ground. You can also prepare by checking the weather reports for the perfect day. And do inform your date. You might get the knack out of surprising her but I do not think she will be too happy sitting down on a picnic blanket with her new dress of designer.

II. A day at the theme park

You might think that this is a bit childish but what could be more fun than having a blast riding roller coasters and snuggling up in the Ferris wheel? You can impress your date with your shooting skills and maybe win her a stuffed animal as souvenir. Some women may find this a bit unconventional but a day at the theme park will bring out the best of your personalities. You can easily determine if your date is a fun-loving highly-spirited gal. The local theme park or fairgrounds can be a great place for your first date. It is also less expensive than a regular dinner date.

III. A tasteful art film or play

The latest blockbusters may be very appealing. You might even consider a chick flick. But it does not really speak of your personality, does it? Why not take her to the local theatre for a Monty Python movie marathon or a light Shakespearean comedy. After which, you can take her out for a quick drink or a light dinner and talk about what you just saw. It can open a lot about each other or give delightful insights on each other personalities. Your date might even be impressed by your taste and see you in a deeper light, and on your first date at that!

IV. An exotic dinner

Staple French cuisine or gourmet food can be quite impressive on a first date but it can be very predictable and expensive as well. Why not try exotic Mediterranean fare or Indian cuisine? How about a taste of Turkey or hot Thai food? Food can be an adventure for both of you. However, you might need to ask your date first because she might be allergic to some dishes or has an aversion to eating such kind of fares.

Choose the idea you like and have fun on the first date!

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So you are talking to this guy who you are friends with, or you are attracted to, and he starts talking about this “cool chic” he knows. If you are his friend, that’s awesome and you want to meet her instantly. If you are attracted to him, you want to meet her instantly as well, but possibly not with such good intent! You may have never really noticed it until that moment, either, or until right now reading this article. But - according to Christian Carter in his Catch Him and Keep Him eBook, though, calling a chic cool is a huge tribute from a man.

What exactly makes a woman “cool” though? Well, a “cool” lady, to a man, is a lady that really CLICKS with a man on a very deep level – someone he knows understands the social dynamics between not only men and women, but men and men as well as women and women. These women are incredibly attractive to men, because being around a lady who really GETS IT from a man’s perspective is easy and a lot of fun.

You see, “cool” girls exude positive energy but more importantly, do not project the negative emotions that many women can project. One of the troubles with men is that often times, they really take any kind of lady that they do not like and put them all in one big mental heap. So, if Jack had a bad experience with Jennifer, and then Staci does something that reminds him of Jennifer, Staci is guilty by association. This is one of the reasons that some men have such a difficult time finding a lady they really like and can relate to.

But what do you actually DO to be the COOL girl? Does anyone actually know any dating tips on what the do’s and dont’s are? Sure! Here are some of the things you can do (you can find more in Christian Carter’s eBook Catch Him and Keep Him around page 138 and 139).

First –these women do not makes scenes, talk about things that are negative or complain. They are mature and adult. Whatever happens, these women can roll with the punches and brush it off. These women do not make a scene yelling, pouting or other attention-getting behavior when they are mad about something. They do not act like immature teenagers by trying to physically fight another girl over something, or even a guy. Some of you might even be offended by that statement, but as a lady, I have seen it and I am SURE you have too. Don’t do things like that – men hate it, and so do mature adults.

Second – the COOL chic , according to Christian Carter, will be COMPLETE WITH HERSELF. She will have her own interests and hobbies and does not feel insecure if she does not have a date or even a friend to hang out with on a Friday night. Even when she HAS a boyfriend or a date – she is perfectly happy to do her own thing and let her boyfriend or date do his as well. That’s not to say that she won’t go to a Blue’s game because he wants to – sure she can, its fun! But that does mean that if you are both sitting at home and he is watching hockey and you are bored out of your mind – a cool girl will say to herself, “Hey – I don’t care about hockey – let’s go do something fun for me while HE has his own fun watching the game!” Then go read a book, finish a project, call a friend, whatever it is that makes YOU happy.

Third – the cool girls do not always have to be in control of the situation. These women can go with the flow and allow the men to direct the situation (which is a salve to their alpha-male souls). Seriously – men dig this because they WANT to be in charge – and they feel much more attracted to a lady when she lets him be who HE WANTS to be. That is huge for a man.

These three tips are GREAT to start you on your way to being that totally cool chic. In the Catch Him and Keep Him ebook, there are a bunch more tips on how to be the cool girl, as well as what NOT to do, too, which can help. So check it out – and start BEING the cool girl today!

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MISTAKE : THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT

Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be “right”?

Have you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing about… and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn’t shut their “smart mouths”?

Over the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again…

Smart guys don’t like to be “beginners” at anything.

They don’t like the idea of screwing up… especially if others are watching.

They want to maintain this “smart guy” image of themselves… so they try to always be “The Expert” at whatever they do.

Instead of saying, “Hey, you know what? I’m a beginner at this… how do I do it? What should I do first? What next?”… and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to learn…

…they won’t risk embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they’re beginners… so they wind up ultimately failing.

More news just in: It’s OK to be a beginner.

MISTAKE : THEY CAN’T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS

A smart guy’s strength is his mind.

His weakness is often his emotions.

Smart guys are often immobilized by fear.

Totally stopped.

Frozen.

And since many smart guys aren’t comfortable dealing with things they’re not good at, they just repress or run away from fear.

Many men would rather die in lonely isolation than admit that they don’t know how to deal with their emotions… or, God forbid, ask for help!

Hey, I went for years like this.

I know what it’s like.

But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even master his emotions (even fear)… if he just takes the time and effort to learn how to do it.

If this is you, then do yourself a big favor… take the time. Take the effort.

Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you… it doesn’t matter.
MISTAKE : THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERT

Have you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be “right”?

Have you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing about… and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn’t shut their “smart mouths”?

Over the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again…

Smart guys don’t like to be “beginners” at anything.

They don’t like the idea of screwing up… especially if others are watching.

They want to maintain this “smart guy” image of themselves… so they try to always be “The Expert” at whatever they do.

Instead of saying, “Hey, you know what? I’m a beginner at this… how do I do it? What should I do first? What next?”… and instead of being totally OK with screwing up, making mistakes, and making a fool of themselves in front of others in order to learn…

…they won’t risk embarrassment, failure, or others thinking that they’re beginners… so they wind up ultimately failing.

More news just in: It’s OK to be a beginner.

MISTAKE : THEY CAN’T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS

A smart guy’s strength is his mind.

His weakness is often his emotions.

Smart guys are often immobilized by fear.

Totally stopped.

Frozen.

And since many smart guys aren’t comfortable dealing with things they’re not good at, they just repress or run away from fear.

Many men would rather die in lonely isolation than admit that they don’t know how to deal with their emotions… or, God forbid, ask for help!

Hey, I went for years like this.

I know what it’s like.

But the reality is that any guy can learn to handle and even master his emotions (even fear)… if he just takes the time and effort to learn how to do it.

If this is you, then do yourself a big favor… take the time. Take the effort.

Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks of you… it doesn’t matter.

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REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY “INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS”

What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem… or he needs to figure something out?

He looks for information to help him solve the problem.

More information is always the answer.

Information is the friend of a smart guy.

Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the Internet and search for how to eliminate it.

Don’t know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page 147.

Don’t know the definition of a word? Open up your dictionary.

More information solves the problem.

So what do smart guys do when it comes to overcoming a problem with women?

They want more information.

They think the answer lies in learning just one more technique… or one more magic concept.

Well what if there were a situation in life where the “get more information” strategy actually made things worse?

How would you even know that it was making things worse?

Now, I don’t want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing. It’s not.

But if you have a problem that is emotional or physical in nature, then reading five million theories on it probably isn’t going to help you very much.

You need to get out in the real world and try some stuff!

You need to look at the real problem… the root of the problem.

When it comes to women and dating, there’s a very good chance that you have more than enough “information”.

Smart guys often use “more information” to distract them from taking action.

I’ve heard this referred to as “Creative Avoidance”.

Nod silently if you’ve ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your life.

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You’ve probably noticed that I don’t talk about the idea of “romance” very often.

There’s a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in.

I’m going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you.

Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be “romantic”:

1) They try to use romance to create attraction.

2) They use too much romance, thinking that more must be better.

Let me ask you this… What does romance mean to you?

I’m serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself… a more thoughtful side… in a way that is meant to increase the woman’s attraction for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to create attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to “be romantic”, and the effect is lost.

Here’s a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

Here’s another one…

In general, would a woman think you were more romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw her.

2) Didn’t take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see where I’m going with these examples? “Romance” is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make far more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.

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Using the internet to look for a potential partner in life is not easy. In fact, it can be quite dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. This article reveals internet dating tips that are useful if you’re venturing into the online dating scene, making sure that you avoid any problems that come up during your escapades.

Here are some internet dating tips that will help you in this little project.

Choose A Reliable Online Dating Service

One of the widely-heard internet dating tips is to choose an online dating service that will work for you. In fact, there are hundreds of these sites on the internet, but not all of them can give you what you want.

You need to look for a site that hosts honest and trustworthy individuals and other features that will increase the success ratio of your online dating.

Some Reliable Dating Sites:

www.Date.com

www.AshleyMadison.com

www.Anastasia-International.com

www.MatchMaker.com

www.OkCupid.com

www.FriendFinder.com

www.Alt.com

www.Meetic.se

www.GayFriendFinder.com

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Be Honest With Your Profile – But Not Too Much

You need to be honest when you are setting up your profile in one of the internet dating sites on the world wide web.

You need to be accurate with your information so that you will be able to attract people that coincide with your individuality.

But it is advisable that you refrain from posting your complete name, your address, your telephone or mobile number, or even your company if you don’t want stalkers hounding you every single day of your life.

Practice Caution When Meeting Your Online Date

Ensuring your safety is one of the vital internet dating tips that you should be practicing while making use of the service, especially when you plan to meet them face to face.

Spend some time with the person on the service, while checking out their background information whether they are lying or not. If you have a gut feeling that there is something wrong with this person, then heed this warning to avoid possible mishaps in the future.

These internet dating tips should be helpful to beginners in the online dating scene. In fact, I recommend that you follow these words by heart if you want to avoid any trouble that will compromise your personal safety while enjoying the benefits of internet dating.

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There are tons of dating tips for men to give their lovers a good time. You probably already know that you need to spend some quality time with your partner to keep the love growing in a relationship.

But not all of these dating tips for men can be the right method for you; in fact, you need to choose them carefully to make them work according to your romantic plans.

They do not necessarily have to be based on your actions. In truth, they will only be successful if you put your entire heart into it - it is for your special someone, after all.

Don’t Start Being Too Intimate On The First Date.

The ultimate show of love and affection in a relationship is physical intimacy. In fact, a date is always a prelude to this exciting activity - but is not always the case on first dates.

Keep a tight rein on desire, and concentrate more on getting to know the person that you are attracted to. Physical intimacy can come later when both of you have developed the trust needed in a relationship, unless she’s the one who shows the first move.

Show Your Interest.

Each of us has opinions; you may like this, but your partner may not. One dating tip is to show an interest to your partner’s idea even if it doesn’t coincide with your own way of thinking.

One of the proven dating tips for men is to show her that you are very interested with what she’s saying by paying attention, agreeing with her ideas, or even stating some facts that would go well with her way of thinking.

Dating tips for men can vary from one person to another. In truth, the important thing that you should remember in a date is to give your partner the attention and affection that she deserves in a love relationship.

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Many people would always come up with ideas for a fun date that borders on quantity instead of quality. In truth, spending some time with your partner does not necessarily have to entail expensive venues or costly merchandise.

It is very important that you come up with ideas for a fun date that will improve the relationship that you have with your partner, instead of filling your bellies til you drop.

Spend Some Time In The Park

Considering that you want to be spending quality time with your significant other, one of the ideas for a fun date is to ask them out for a visit in the local park.

You might not realize it, but a park is a place where you can have loads of fun while enjoying the company of your partner. Ideas for a fun date in the park include:

• Eating an ice cream sundae while enjoying a conversation with your partner

• Playing Frisbee or any fun sports on the lush green carpet of grass

• Sitting under the cooling breeze of a tree while engaging in fun conversation.

Go On Tours

Going for a tour in one of the local museums is one of the great ideas for a fun date. Since you will only be spending for the entrance fee or none at all, you and your partner can enjoy a delightful afternoon admiring the beautiful pieces of history, while enjoying each other’s company.

Go Out For Walks

Spending quality time with your lover does not necessarily mean staying in one place doing nothing. Both of you can go out window shopping or taking a stroll.

If both of you are really up to it, you can tour around the city and visit interesting places where you can have fun.

Coming up with ideas for a fun date with your partner doesn’t need to end up costing a lot, even if you really want to spend some quality time with the person you love. In fact, a little creativity and some determination is all it takes to turn a simple date into a big success.

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The stereotype is that men only want one type of relationship: quick, fun, and casual. But what if that won’t make you happy? You can try it if you would like, but if you decide you want something else something more, then you need a different approach to get a different end result.

Here are a few descriptions of various relationship types choose which one you’ld prefer:

Casual and quick: This is the classic œno expectations relationship playboys are famous for. You might meet once or twice and have some fun, but you really don’t expect to see her again, and you don’t really care.

Pros: It’s easy to date a lot of women this way, and it can be fun and exciting for awhile.

Cons: You don’t really get to know any women, and getting intimate physically before you’re intimate emotionally can have serious side effects, such as a trail of angry and bitter women behind you. A bad reputation caused by this kind of dating can damage your future relationships.

Casual and friendly: You might be seeing one woman or two or three  they all know you’re not serious yet and all of you are free to date other people.

Pros: If you’re not ready to settle down or you’re still deciding what type of woman you like to date, this is the way to go.

Cons: Sometimes a small thing will send the relationship down a more serious path, and you might not realize it until she asks your opinion about the wedding invitations. Then, you need to gently bring the relationship back where it was, or you have some explaining to do to your other casual dates.

Serious and friendly: You’re in an exclusive relationship with one woman, and she’s exclusively dating you. It could be because you haven’t found anyone else to compare with her, or it could be that you’re thinking of making a formal commitment. Either way, you’re both happy and neither of you wants to see anyone else.

Pros: You really know this woman, and she really knows you. You’re comfortable with each other, and neither of you is going anywhere without at least trying to work out any problems.

Cons: People will ask if you’re engaged yet, and they won’t quit until they see a ring. Also, being comfortable in your relationship might make you lazy as well. You still have to maintain this great relationship, remember?

Rebound: This is the relationship you sometimes get into in order to get over the last one. There’s nothing really good about this one  the ghost of the relationship past keeps messing with anything you might have with the new woman, and you’re still confused about what you should and shouldn’t expect.

Your best bet is to let the old relationship blow completely over before you start a new one. The same goes for any potential girlfriends  refuse to date anyone who’s still talking about her last boyfriend as if he’s still in her life.

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The End. The journey is over. You feel rejected. Hopeless. You don’t want to go back in the jungle again. You may even have that dread feeling of failure.

Suddenly, all the love songs at the radio seemed to have been written for you. You want to stay in bed. Shut all the doors and the windows. Bring the kids to your relatives for a while. You don’t feel like talking to anybody now. You swear to yourself that you will never get involved with someone again, half believing it.

Life is much more exciting than that. Besides, you are not the last and only person experiencing a separation. And, it might not be your last breakup either. With the proper mental tools, break ups could be less painful.

Breaking up, I prefer to call it an opportunity for a change of habits. It’s like having an addiction and you need to cut yourself from it. It’s painful but necessary. The good news about it is that it doesn’t need to be Hell on Earth. There are effective ways to go through this process with smooth sailing. Some dating tips.

First, you absolutely need to stop thinking of the great moments that you had together. Chances are that those moments happened a long time ago, not to mention, not that often either. Keep in mind the reasons of your break up, until your mind is in sync with your heart. And don’t keep in touch with that person for now, if you can. Or reduce the frequency of contacts at its bare minimum.

Write a letter

You need to let the emotions out. Write everything that frustrates you, made you angry, sad, etc. You don’t necessarily need to send it to your previous partner but at least, this is a proven healing process for you to calm the storm inside. You can choose to keep it somewhere to read for yourself later, when the healing process will be over. You might discover some strength that you are not aware about you.

Make new friends.

You need to socialize more the ever. How do you do that? Go to fairs, reading clubs, sports clubs, art clubs, etc. ask questions, make conversations, and exchange phone numbers with people to do activities and keep in touch. Offer to help with something. Friends come fast like that. Don’t jump into another relationship to avoid facing your feelings of emptiness. Chances are that there will be other disappointments. You need to finish the process of unblocking all of your emotions to freely open your heart again to someone else, and increase the chances of success.

Some real friends are waiting here for you:(some free dating sites)

www.Friendfinder.com
www.myspace.com
www.facebook.com
www.date.com
www.matchmaker.com

Pamper yourself.

Treat yourself. Take naps in the Sun. Get a pedicure. A great massage. Read the bible. Read inspiring texts that will give you strength ( Like the book “Chicken soup for Soul”). Go jogging. Do some Yoga. Listen to Jazz music. Eat well. Go pick apples with the kids. You know what I mean; do all the activities that help put your soul to calm.

Stay away from un-supportive people

Neutralized your mind and heart from some comments of your family and friends. I am sure that they really want your good. But they maybe are a little bit. œclumsy in the way they express their caring for you œ When are you going the get married? You can’t go from people to people like that! You are getting old, you know? or  There are other people you know; 1 lost, 10 found! (I hate that one). Hang out with people who are taking your mind off things, who understands and gives you the support that you need. I remember reading this about hardships that œ It is not only time that heals the heart, but also all the warmth and love around us.

Get a Pet

When I broke up with my last boyfriend, I got a cat. He was so tiny and requested so much of my attention that it fulfilled my need to feel wanted. A pet doesn’t replace the love and attention that a boyfriend or girlfriend can give, but, it’s all part of the process of having a full life. So get a dog, a cat, a turtle, whatever provides that added value in your life.

Find at least 3 Passions

You will need to get all the strength that you can possibly have to open your heart to fun. Fill your life to the fullest with different passions. Take cooking lessons, take a gold lesson, try other sports, and try painting, other arts, and hobbies of some kind. Learning a new thing will keep your mind busy, you will have a new skill and will feel good about yourself and, you will be more interesting for a future mate. One of my friends was single for at least 2 years. She decided to join a badminton club. The first semester, nobody was really interesting for her. In the second semester, there was still no new blood coming. But she still subscribed because she enjoyed the activity so much. The third semester, this dark handsome policeman join the league and it didn’t take long before they hooked up. And today, they share, among other things, this passion. It’s an opportunity to have fun together and to be together.

Date Again.

Yes! You read right! Date again! Jump right back on the Horse again! You need to rebuild your self-esteem and being in situations where people from the opposite sex find you interesting will prevent that you go down into that whole. You don’t need to get deeply emotionally involved. Date to have fun. Keep the relationships light and simple. Where do you find those people? Go on dating sites, classifieds, friends, and acquaintances. Since you are not out to find a husband and wife yet, you won’t be threatening.

Get to the stage of feeling great being single

Take the time to Truly feel fulfilled in a single life. This is a powerful way to find true love because if you are having a great life alone, you will be willing give up your exciting single lifestyle for the person that is really worth it.

Be and Feel Successful

And if you are out for revenge the greatest revenge of all is Success. Take this opportunity to develop your personality even more. Your children, if you have, will be proud of you and people around you will admire your strength and more opportunities will occur.

If you were to consider coming back with your partner, start considering it not before 6 months to a year after the break up. This has given time to you and your partner to reflect on your mutual faults and strengths, and to heal.

Experiencing loss is a difficult moment of our life to pass. But you can take this opportunity to prove to yourself, once again, how much of a winner you are; take this opportunity to transform yourself even more. If you transform your life while you are not in a relationship, with a partner, you will collect the fruits of these initiatives.

The most important thing: laugh, laugh, and laugh. Laugh at every opportunity that life gives you. Feel good and be happy.

Wishing you great success in finding happiness again

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Many males complain that they don’t understand females. Many females complain that they don’t understand males. We also have the classic saying that men are from mars and women are from venus. Physically both sexes are very similar and are of the same species so what is the problem?

After much reading on the subject, there seems to be a general consensus that there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women think. The bottom line is that men think with logic but women think with emotions. This is why a male gets so frustrated with a females sometimes irrational behavior.

Additionally, a female rarely says directly what she wants. Instead, she will use reverse psychology by asking the male a series of questions until she gets the desired answer. If she does not get the desired answer she will take the huffs and give the male ‘the cold shoulder treatment’. She thinks this will alert the male that something is wrong and he will do what she want with out actually telling him |:(

Meanwhile the male is left dazed and confused as to what happened. After which an argument is usually required to get to the bottom of the problem. The whole situation could have been avoided if the female had stated directly what she wanted in the first place.

When asked why they do this, most women will either answer that they don’t realize they’re doing this or they simply don’t know why. Many an argument could be avoided if what came out of a girls mouth was the same as the thought that was processed in her brain. But alas, it is not.

The classic example is a couple driving along a road. The female is hungry so she says to the male ‘would you like to get something to eat?’ The male replys ‘no thanks I’m not hungry at the minute’ and keeps driving. She then takes it thick because she didn’t get the answer she was looking for. If she had said ‘I’m hungry, pull in at the next shop so I can get some food’ he would have done just that without question.

This all stems back to the fact that a female thinks with her emotions, not logic. This is why a male cannot understand a females rational. Males cannot read between the lines. They are not psychic or clairvoyant and they need everything spelled out to them in black and white.

Males often also complain that females are moody, have mood swings and show irrational or erratic behavior. This is especially apparent in times of stress, emergencies or significant events where body chemicals and emotions are highly stimulated.

Because a females behavior is affected by her emotions and her emotions are affected by her body chemistry and her body chemistry is in a state of flux from one month to the next, it can only be expected that a female would exhibit erratic behavior that is a mystery to a man whose body does not go through a constant monthly cycle of change. Re-read that last paragraph guys if it went over your head.

Unfortunately this behavior is genetically built into a females body. So sorry guys, you are going to have to live with it and while you can’t get rid of it, you can at least be aware of it and try to understand it.

So in short, guys need to try to interpret better what a girl is saying, as it may not be exactly what she means. Girls need to try better to say exactly what they mean, if they want their guy to do what they want, without playing head games with them. Weather this is actually possible (as it goes against our genetic programming) is another case entirely.

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Dating with people from other countries work? Well yes of course they do, but there are both advantages and disadvantages to consider when thinking about starting a relationship with someone from a different culture or country. It all depends on what you expect from someone else and whether they can give you what you expect - and whether you can meet their expectations too, of course. Here I’m thinking specifically about dating relationships, that is relationships that can lead to long term commitments such as marriage.

To begin with, whether any relationship anywhere works or not depends first and foremost on the individual personalities of the people in the relationship, and not on their culture or country. However, culture and country can have an influence on the relationship. For example, if someone from a particular culture has certain expectations of a marriage relationship (which expectations come from the way they have brought up and what they have been led to expect from such a relationship) then that may affect the relationship, however slightly. On the whole though, relationships depend upon the people in them, not where those people live or the country they come from.

Making a relationship with someone from another country or another culture can be very exciting. If you are a man you may feel as if you are dating all the beautiful women in that country, or perhaps one of the finest examples of a beautiful girl which that country can offer. A word of caution here. Relationships work at the individual level, so your relationship must be based on how well you get on with the personality of the individual woman concerned, and not the fact that she is either a) beautiful or b) from a certain country, culture or background.

Nevertheless, even allowing for this, a relationship with someone from another culture or country can be extremely exciting. The cultural background, visits to the other country, the language of the country and learning to speak it, the different habits and ways of doing and saying things that people from other cultures have are all very exciting indeed. A relationship can feed off these differences for some time, even for years, but as mentioned above, in the end the relationship must be founded on the same things all successful relationships are founded on, such as trust, mutual respect and understanding.

So what of the disadvantages of a love relationship with someone from another country or cultural background? The very obvious one, but something that still needs stating, is that if your relationship is to exist on a face-to-face level then one of you must live in the other’s country - as simple as that. Aside from the practical problems of securing visas, resident status and so on, there are important emotional concerns here. Living in another country is exciting for the first year or two, but what happens when homesickness grows to the extent that you’ve had enough and just want to go home?

No matter how much you love your husband or wife, that longing for the home country will still be there. Of course this factor is reduced in some people and magnified in others, depending on their personal history and what their home country means to them. Some do find though that after a few years the ongoing background strain of living in what will always be at root an unfamilar and alien country - however much they admire or love it - can become too much. Holidays and visits back home may not be enough (not to mention the ongoing cost of them) and the distance from family becomes too great. Any existing cracks in the relationship could then lead to separation and a return to the home country, whereas such ‘cracks’ might possibly have been successfully healed in a situation where both partners are living in their home country.

Sometimes we have no control over who we begin a love relationship with, it seems to just happen when we meet someone new and blossoms quickly out of our control. But if you are actually planning to find and begin a love relationship with someone from another country or culture — because you love that country and find it an exciting place to visit, for example — then you must go into this process with your eyes open, fully aware of the pitfalls as well as the advantages.

You must be prepared to live abroad if that’s the way it turns out, limiting yourself to visits home and the possibility of not seeing family or close friends for long stretches at a time. And you must really be prepared to do these things, not just tell yourself that you are, because you are in love. Love changes over time, the initial excitement changes into a deep-rooted mutual respect, a different type of love, in the best relationships. In others it simply melts away. So be prepared, go in with your eyes open, be clear what your family and roots mean to you before you are prepared to leave them. But also be open to the great rewards a love relationship with someone from another country or culture can bring.

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Yes, men think so or is it lust at first sight? How can a woman or man really know?

If a woman thinks it is love at first sight, she may have found an incredibly hot guy who matches her ideal social persona catch. If this guy actually knows how to be a natural, all women will want him and she will have to fight with others to ‘keep him’ (I can teach you to be this man).

Otherwise most of them appear to be quite boring because they try to impress her and don’t ‘get it’. But when dealing with ‘love at first sight’, yes it might be, but then longer term dynamics start to sink in and kind of spoil it.

Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder, I mean, beholder.

‘Love at first sight’ is usually only perceptionally based if not in its entirety. No one can match up ideally to one person’s expectation of who they are or who they should be. Once you find out more about them, you’re going to be disappointed in what you thought they were. See how selfish we as people really are?!

Eventually you go through the hardships of a ‘real’ relationship and very very rarely will everything work out perfectly where the people are a real match (at least in our highly developed, opinionated, individualistic cultural society).

You are only throwing your perception or ideals on who you think that person is or should be (I have done this a lot in the past). We want a person to be the ideal match to what WE think they should be. Most often if not all the time, we find out they are not actually what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. A real relationship is going to take a lot of work and a lot more work than two ’simpler’ people.

If you can spark attraction shortly after you meet a woman, there is a more realistic chance she will feel deeper emotions for you than her social persona (of what states what she says she wants) and she will often forgive your other misgivings as long as you understand natural attraction.

This is actually very generous of her because now, guys (way) below her level physically actually have a chance. The process of attraction is slightly different for men and women.

Men will often instantly disqualify women for a sexual relationship based on their looks (ahem), while women keep an open mind to see who knows how to make them ‘feel’ the feelings that they respond to so powerfully physiologically and emotionally. They are interested in a mans character attributes because that are things that can be of interest for the long haul.

These feelings have a biological root which she cannot choose or control. This is why an average looking guy who ‘get’s it’ can have more of a chance than a good looking guy who easily proves himself wrong to her right away.

She will resent that most of her counterparts do not ‘get it’ yet but will be open to starting something with a man who finally can just ‘lead her through’ the natural process of attraction…then often sex ‘just happened’ or she got ’swept away’..this is the way it is supposed to be and that she fantasizes about (and reads in those sappy romance novels).

Don’t be thrown off by what a woman says she wants if you are not that social reflection of her consciousness yourself, she is programmed biologically to react to men who are true naturals with her or who display aspects of being a natural. Do not let that stop you. Her biological inheritance (when in tandem with a true natural man) will override ANY social programming she may have, as long as he maintains true congruency and doesn’t ’screw it up’.

If you are a natural you probably won’t screw it up when you are reaching that part of her (there is much more leniency here). If you are ‘walking on egg shells’ by trying to be ‘qualified’ by her social persona, it’s virtually a guarantee you’ll screw it up even with any small move. Take the very ending of ‘Boat Trip’ where Roselyn Sanchez says to the wussy Cuba Gooding, Jr. character, “Ok, but you BETTER not screw it up.”

Sure the movie ends with a kiss but who has the control here? Whose reality is he in? Love at first sight, but he is based in the wrong paradigm of ‘being’ that he WILL screw it up because of the power dynamics and several other factors (she is in control by far).

In fact, you will almost put aside the entire notion of ‘love at first sight’ because it’s too romancey for you (although you may secretly keep that dream alive); but you understand reality a little more, that different relationships with different women are going to give you different experiences.

Of course you may be aware of lust at first sight with women you see most everywhere you go, but you really have to get to know her more to find out who she is, otherwise it is all just perception.

If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can and get your internal paradigm and life straight and clear, then you can naturally accelerate the process of attracting women and starting things with little effort. Your focus should really be on developing yourself and living in a natural paradigm, while denying all of the perceptual B.S. that is going on. Be an interesting and intriguing man and improve yourself; HAVE something to offer women who are lucky enough.

Your ‘love at first sight’ from their point of view only happens if you match their social ideal (and traditional ideal of Prince Charming) and then know how to take everything from there…then all women will want you. You do not have to be Prince Charming..that is another article, but remember how you relate to her says everything. She needs to be turned up like a volume knob and you have to interact with her to spark the process of sexual attraction and her interest will grow in you…through time, may lead to infatuation, love, great respect, devotion, passion, etc. from her.

It is all in how you relate to her so don’t pay too much attention to having to have Brad Pitt looks, with Soros’ bank account…that’s the same as you wanting to date a supermodel, except you probably have a better chance than she does to meet your ideal because there are so few men left who really get it and are a great catch in their own right (with some nice social status to boot).

There are countless beautiful women. The advantage and favor is in YOUR hands. There are few men left who are awesome catches AND who know how to deal with these women. Make women want you just by being your true self at all times; an interesting, funny, great guy and know how to take it from there .

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This article is in honor of my friend Bingkee. I requested her to give some suggestion on the next article. Thank you Bingkee

Some dating tips or dating advice to determine, if you are on the wrong way or right to choose your partner.

1. He always make plans at the eleventh-hour.

He may have several rods on the fire. You might not be his favorite rod. If nothing else comes along then you explode into his head. Some men just like to keep their options open. They have several choices available and don’t want to make the wrong judgment or commit to a date too soon in the happening that something better might come along. You have to decide if this is something you can stand. If you are not that into him either, it may work out perfectly for you (a girls gotten eat), but if you are waiting by the phone this may be sign to move on. I personally would not feel I was being treated respectfully in this situation. I would feel I deserved to be treated better.

2. He’s not taking an active role in becoming part of your world.

If a man is serious about you, he will usually make the effort to get to know the people who are important to you. Whether it’s your friends or family, he will want it to be known that he is your man and he will usually try hard to make a good impression. This is how some men mark their territory. Hey, it doesn’t hurt if everyone loves him and sings his praises to you. If he doesn’t care about that, he simply might not care about you. If he does care about you, but doesn’t want to be involved in your world… well, that’s a whole other story. You come to your own end, but if it were me… I’d rethink the relationship.

3. He doesn’t go to events that are important to you.

Once in awhile if he has a good excuse or is ill or something…that’s ok. If you see a pattern, it may be time to trade up. Something that is important to you should be equally important to him. If it is not, then it might be a sign that either he is not that into you, he prefers his friends to you, or he is simply too self-centered to stop for a minute and please someone other then himself. If you’ve really hit the jackpot, he may be a combination of all three. Either way, pay attention to the signs or decide if you feel you are worthy of more.

4. He stays in close contact with his single friends.

If a guy does not part with his single friends, you can be fairly certain he is not going to give up the single life either. Some guys are just players: they have to keep their options open and have a certain amount of emotional distance. Having single friends when you are dating is the best of both worlds. He may continue to get close to you, but his friends are never far behind. They attend events with you and have permission to just drop by at their urge. You don’t want your guy to quit his friends, but it may be a sign of trouble if he insists that you spend most of your time together hanging out with his partners.

If he is not a player, but just very social, make sure your needs are met as well. Hanging out with the buds can be fun, but sometimes alone time is also needed in a relationship. If the situation meet your needs, then great. If not, then decide if this is something you can get used to.

5. Night time is the right time… all the time.

If he loves the nightlife and the nightlife loves him even after you have been dating for a while, this might just be his way of life. If this is your way of life, then you have just met your soulmate. I wish you well. However, historically when couples first start dating they tend to go out a lot, stay out late, and dance the night away. Once you settle in, though, and get closer in the relationship, the pendulum swings to quite nights at home and romantic dinners. If this is where you are hoping the pendulum would swing, then it may be a good time to express your needs and see if he can meet them. Don’t ask or expect him to change if that is who he is and what makes him happy. Accept the fact that you want different things. It may be time to send this one back and explore the other “fishes in the sea”.

6. You never see him more then once a week (ok… sometimes twice), even after you have been dating several months

Is he super busy or are you play toy number 7? He might have one for every day of the week, and you only can see him twice if numbers 1 through 6 are busy. Hey, it happens … mostly because he has been allowed to get away with it. Just don’t be naive and think he is sitting home 6 nights alone. If this is acceptable to you, then by all means enjoy your time together when it happens. I guess you will certainly never get sick of each other. If you need more see if he can (or more importantly will) meet your needs. If not…get those shoes on and start walking.

7. You only have his cell number after you have been dating each other for a more then a month.

If it’s been months and you haven’t asked him about that…allow me…he’s either living with someone else or he doesn’t want you calling his house in case he has another woman over. The cell phone he can turn off or set to vibrate… How perfect is that? When you are into someone (and not dating other women too) you want her to feel free totally comfortable calling you anytime. It shows commitment and openness. If he is not showing these signs outwardly, it might be an indication that you are dating a very busy man. If it feels like a duck and quacks like a duck… yup, it’s a duck. This little trick was used on me, and I must say I didn’t catch on for quite a while. I was too naive…I’m all grown up now.

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How often do your married friends complain about husbands who spend weekends on the couch watching games? Didn’t they notice these guys were sports fanatics while they were dating? Did they think things would change after the wedding?

Life is fraught with ups and downs, so it’s critical to marry someone you can have fun with, today and fifty years from now. Here’s how you can find that person:

1. Write down a list of the things you like to do. Then do them. I have a theory that if all the singles who claim to enjoy long walks on the beach actually took long walks on the beach, they’d meet, get married, and the personal ad industry would collapse.

If you like to read, hang out in a bookstore. If the bookstore has a cafe, become a regular there. If you like beer and bands, grab a friend and get to know the faces at a neighborhood bar (take a cab; no drinking and driving, please).

Do what you like to do.

This technique worked for a good friend of mine. After discovering that his longtime girlfriend had been cheating on him, he left her. Then he gave himself time to mourn and moved on.

He had two hobbies, cooking and hiking. He enrolled in a cooking class and joined a hiking club, in the hopes of widening his social circle. After the cooking class ended, he invited his classmates to a party at his house and encouraged them to bring friends. Guess who showed up? A fun, attractive (and faithful!) woman who enjoys entertaining and good food as much as he does. They’ve been married three years now.

2. Write down a list of things you’d like to do but haven’t gotten around to yet. Would you like to build a bookcase? Check out the list of classes at your local Home Depot. Want to learn how to fix your transmission? Take an auto repair course. Women are bound to meet men there. If you’re bent on improving your money management skills, take a finance course. You’ll likely meet smart, upwardly mobile people.

The key to attracting a husband who you can have fun with 10, 25, and 50 years from now is to do the things that make you happy today.

Then see who shows up.

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You return home after a tough day and slip into a bath.

The taps trickle, the candles glow, the water, warm and soothing, soaks into your skin and the ballad of the moment defines your mood.

Your thoughts drift and the challenges of the day melt away. You’re dreaming of being on a beach. A turquoise tide tumbles on a sandy shore and the warmth that fills your pores now is the warmth of the sun. You feel wonderful and drift deeper and deeper and begin to picture the life you’d love…

Things haven’t been right for a while. You’ve felt like you’re turning up to work, hanging out for the weekend – which turns out to be a bit bland and samey, just like work. Days float by. You’re aware that life is lacking excitement and I know you’d love to change that. The problem is ‘how’.

If you are serious about making changes then read on:

1. How uncomfortable is life really?

A while ago I emailed my newsletter database list. I offered every person on that list the opportunity to get out of a rut and gain sufficient confidence to change their life within a year. ‘Yeah,’ they said in their droves. ‘Pick me! Pick me!’ a massive sixteen percent of my database responded. Problem was this though: when they discovered they needed to do something the willing sixteen percent fell to one point four percent.

Decide now who you want to be. Do you seriously want to change Life? If so read on. If you just want to gripe and hope that life will miraculously change then stop reading now. The good advice in this article is not for you.

2. Accept that life changes when you change.

Do you want to look back at life in twenty years and see that your life is no happier than it was twenty years ago? Accept now that life will only change when you change it. No one will do it for you. Expecting life to change without doing anything any different is the definition of madness.

3. Be responsible

Don’t blame your boss, your partner or your children. Your life is your responsibility. Take responsibility and understand you are the creator in your life. You have made everything happen and will make everything happen.

4. Learn to understand yourself.

Knowing what you don’t like or want is easy. Take the time to understand what you do like and what you do want. Try to do things that moves you towards pleasure, rather than avoiding pain.

5. Have courage

Have the courage to take some action. Small action is fine. Little steps lead you a long way over time. Find people who support you and learn to ignore the ones who get in your way with discouragement. Read books that help you learn more about what you want to do. Find a personal development group, go on a workshop or find a coach.

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